Regifting Rules: Dos and Don'ts

Regifting - giving a gift you got from someone else - can save cash and cut down on waste. Yet if not done well, it may lead to odd looks or hurt hearts. To regift the right way, stick to these easy tips:

• Only regift new things: The gift should look fresh and unopened. Check for any breaks, notes, or dates that show it's too old.
• Avoid regifting in the same group: Make sure the one who gave it and the new person getting it don’t know each other to dodge awkwardness.
• Take off any personal marks: Get rid of cards, names, and price tags to make the gift seem planned.
• Match the gift to the person: Be sure the item fits what they like and want.
• Wrap it nicely again: Use new wrapping paper or stuff that's good for the earth to make the gift look great.
• Keep a list of gifts: Keep track and sort out items that you can regift, so you don't give them back to the one who gave them to you.
• Be quiet about it: Don’t tell that the gift was regifted - it can make it seem less kind.
• Know when not to regift: Stay away from things that are too personal, full of feeling, used, or not good enough.

When done with thought, regifting can be a kind way to give things to someone who will like them. The main thing is to handle it with the same care as when you buy a new gift.

🎁 The Art of Regifting - Do's and Don'ts | Holiday Etiquette #regifting #modernetiquette

1. Only Regift Brand-New, Unused Items

The first and most important rule of regifting is this: the item must be unused. Regifting isn't about passing along something that's been lightly used or tested; it’s about giving something that feels as fresh and thoughtful as a brand-new purchase.

Start by carefully checking the condition of the gift. Look for any signs of wear, such as damaged packaging, missing parts, or evidence that the box has been opened multiple times. Also, watch out for personal touches like inscriptions, monograms, or notes that might reveal the item's history. According to Everyday Cheapskate:

"A regift must look brand-new. If the box is damaged or shows any signs that it has been opened, it does not qualify as a regift."

For perishable and scented items, such as food or beauty products, double-check expiration dates. Nothing spoils the gesture like realizing the item is expired. For gifts like candles, perfumes, or bath products, ensure the fragrance is still intact and hasn’t altered over time.

Once you've confirmed the item is in perfect condition, focus on the presentation. If the original packaging looks worn, consider repackaging it in a fresh gift box or bag. For clothing, make sure it’s clean, neatly folded, and free of any odors or stains before wrapping it. Smaller items can be individually wrapped to add a thoughtful touch.

When wrapping the gift, treat it with the same care you'd give a brand-new purchase. Use new wrapping paper, and wrap it neatly to make it look polished. For an extra thoughtful gesture, consider using eco-friendly wrapping materials like recyclable paper or fabric. The goal is to ensure the recipient feels that this gift was chosen and prepared just for them.

2. Don't Regift Within the Same Social Circle

Regifting can quickly go from clever to cringe-worthy if the original giver and the new recipient happen to know each other. When you regift within the same friend group, family, or workplace, the chances of someone discovering the swap skyrocket. This can lead to embarrassment, hurt feelings, or even damaged relationships - none of which are worth the convenience of regifting.

Sharon Schweitzer, an international etiquette expert and author, puts it plainly:

"Don't regift within the same circle. Instead, regift within different family, friends, and work circles to avoid hurt feelings or awkward situations."

To avoid potential slip-ups, think of your social circles as distinct groups. Let’s say a coworker gives you a scented candle set. Resist the urge to regift it to another colleague. Instead, pass it along to a neighbor, a friend from your gym, or a relative who has no overlap with your workplace. The key is to create enough distance between the giver and the recipient so their paths are unlikely to cross. Thoughtful regifting means being mindful of these boundaries.

And for those quirky or unique gifts? Extra caution is essential. Jodi RR Smith, founder of Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting, offers this advice:

"The more unusual the item, the more distance should be put between the giver and re-giftee."

Before you wrap up that gift for someone else, take a moment to ensure the original giver and the new recipient don’t share any social connections. A little forethought can save you from an awkward situation later on.

3. Remove All Personal Notes and Tags

Once you've ensured the item is in perfect condition, it's time to erase any evidence of its previous ownership. Nothing derails a regift more quickly than the recipient finding a card inside that says, "Happy Birthday, Sarah!" when their name is Jennifer. Personal notes, tags, and identifying marks are clear signs that the gift wasn't originally meant for them, turning a kind gesture into an awkward moment.

Take a close look at every part of the gift for anything that might reveal its history. Start with the obvious: gift tags, handwritten notes, and receipts. Dig deeper into compartments, boxes, and manuals - sometimes, thoughtful givers tuck personal messages into less obvious places, like inside books, jewelry cases, or packaging inserts.

Engravings and monograms are non-negotiable. A leather wallet embossed with someone else's initials or a piece of jewelry engraved with a personal message can't be passed off as new. These details are permanent and removing them would likely ruin the item. According to etiquette experts, personalized or handmade gifts are off-limits for regifting since they're specifically tailored for the original recipient.

With the growing popularity of customized gifts, this step is more important than ever. Many retailers now offer options like custom engraving or monogramming as standard features, so you’re more likely to encounter subtle personal touches that might escape notice during a quick check.

Also, make sure to remove all store stickers, price tags, and promotional materials from the packaging. Even something as small as a gift receipt or a loyalty program sticker can raise questions about where the gift came from.

The goal is to make the gift feel like it was chosen specifically for the new recipient. By removing every trace of its previous life, you show respect for both the person receiving the gift and the one who originally gave it. This careful attention to detail ensures that your regifting effort is thoughtful and well-received.

If you come across personalization that can’t be removed, avoid regifting that item altogether. Instead, consider keeping it, donating it, or repurposing it in a way that doesn’t involve giving it as a present. A little extra effort here goes a long way in maintaining your reputation as a considerate gift-giver.

4. Make Sure the Recipient Will Actually Want It

Once you've confirmed the gift is in good condition and appropriate, the next step is to ensure it genuinely fits the recipient. Ask yourself: Would I pick this out specifically for them? If the answer is no, it’s probably better to hold off on regifting.

Think about their interests, lifestyle, and personal preferences. For instance, a cookbook might be a fantastic choice for a budding chef but would likely miss the mark for someone who avoids cooking. Similarly, while a scented candle might seem like a safe bet, it could backfire if the person has allergies or just doesn’t like candles.

Your relationship with the recipient also plays a role. A nice bottle of wine might be a thoughtful gesture for a close friend but could feel too intimate or misplaced for a casual acquaintance.

"It is absolutely acceptable to regift, especially if it is something that the new recipient will enjoy or appreciate." – Lee Cordon, Founder of DoSayGive

Picture their reaction when they unwrap the gift. If you can’t imagine them being genuinely happy or excited to use it, it’s worth reconsidering. The best regifts are those that feel personal and thoughtful, sparking reactions like, “This is perfect!” or “How did you know I wanted this?”

To make the gesture even more meaningful, pair the regift with a handwritten note or a personalized card explaining why the item reminded you of them. This small touch can go a long way in making the gift feel intentional.

For extra help, consider using tools like GiftList to browse friends' public wish lists. Whether it’s a brand-new purchase or a regift, thoughtful choices keep the gesture sincere and appreciated.

5. Put It in New Wrap

Give your regift a new look to make it seem new and well thought-out. The first wrap may be ripped, old, or just not right for the time. When you wrap it again, it shows you care about how it looks. The main thing? Pick stuff that makes the gift pop.

Use wrap that fits many times not just for one holiday. Choose strong, thick wrap that you can cut well. This makes your gift look neat.

If you like to keep Earth safe, try paper that can be reused or fun choices like kraft paper or old cloth. Kraft paper or even old news can look simple and sweet on purpose. Using bits of cloth, tin boxes, or glass jars helps reuse, and shows you thought more about it.

Boxes for gifts are also good. They last long, look sharp, and work well for weird-shaped things. They stay flat when you store them, so they save space.

To make it look nice, use plain ribbons or small add-ons. A smooth ribbon or raw twine can lift up simple wrap. Keep away from too fancy styles - plain and nice is best.

Tissue paper makes it special in bags or boxes, making it fun to open layer by layer. For a cheap yet neat detail, make your own tags from old cardboards.

Stay away from shiny wrap - it’s too much and pulls focus. Clear, neat wrap shows you care without extra hassle.

With some work, you can show your regift as a well-picked and lovely packaged treat.

6. Keep Your Gift Spot Tidy

Having a neat place for gifts can make regifting easy, not hard. When all is in order, you’ll have the right gift set to go when needed. The main step? Make a special spot for gifts you haven't used yet where they are safe, easy to get to, and simple to look through.

To keep it plain, use boxes with clear marks for all kinds like "Kitchen Tools" or "Home Stuff - Lights & Frames." This helps you see what's inside without looking in every box. Put like items together by event, who they are for, or how old they are. For instance, keep kids' toys apart from gifts for work mates. Use color marks or the same mark style to help every person in your home find what they want.

Pick the right place to store them. Gifts should stay in a cool, dry spot that’s not too hot or wet. Don’t put them in top or bottom parts of the house since these spots can hurt the boxes or ruin the gifts inside. Rather, use a closet in a bedroom, an extra room, or other spot with good air control.

To keep track, have a list. Write down a simple list with the gift name, when you got it, and who might like it. Look at what you have often to make sure all is good and not too old. This plan stops you from buying the same thing twice and helps you recall that great gift when it's time. Be sure to throw out things that aren't good for giving away anymore, like old beauty stuff, tech that's too old, or food that’s not good now.

For things that break easy, use boxes that keep them safe over time. Plain card boxes can break down if it's wet, and ruin what’s inside. Putting money in strong, good boxes will keep your gifts looking good and ready for giving when needed.

sbb-itb-309de5c

7. Don't Share That You're Regifting

When you regift, the top rule is not to tell. Saying a gift is from someone else can make it seem less kind. A bit of plan and nice show help a lot, but it's key to keep your regift quiet.

Why? Because if you tell someone their gift was given to you first, they might feel less valued. Even if they love or need the thing, knowing it wasn't picked just for them can make it feel less warm. The real worth of a gift is not just in what it is, but in the love and thought the other person thinks you put into getting it.

"It might put a question mark on our relationship in that I'm giving you a gift without that usual step of thoughtfulness or [without considering] how much money should go into this decision. There's even the extra layer of whether I'm treating this as a disposal action." - Jing Wan, assistant professor, University of Guelph in Ontario

Letting out that you gave a gift you got to someone else can do more than make things weird. It might upset the one who first gave it if they find out you gave their gift away. This could make things bad between you, or even break ties. In some spots, this pain can last so long it starts fights or makes people stop talking to each other.

Think on this: 53% of American grown-ups say they got at least one gift they did not want over the holidays. Many more people pass gifts on than you might think, but it's still a touchy thing. It messes with the usual ways we think about giving gifts. No one needs the story behind a gift to like it.

Rather than tell where the gift came from, share why you picked it for them. Talk about what they like or why you thought they'd have fun with it. This keeps the gift warm and kind, the real heart of giving gifts, and it helps make sure they like what you've done.

8. Use Gift Tools to Keep It All in Check

Being neat is key to good regifting. By writing down the gifts you get, who they're from, and special days ahead, you can dodge those odd mix-ups - like giving a gift back to the one who first gave it to you. Staying neat also aids you in making sure the gift still looks good and fits right. This is when gift tools are useful.

Gift tools make the full process of regifting a lot easier. They let you keep an eye on key dates, not forget what your pals and kin like, and keep your gift pile sorted. With these tools, you won't by chance give a gift to folks from the same group - or worse, to the person who gave it to you in the first place.

Look at GiftList, for one. It's a tool made to help you manage regifting better. The Special Days Tracker lets you stay updated on big dates like birthdays, wedding days, and holidays. By planning before, you can pair gifts with the right person and event. For example, if you know a birthday is soon, you get to pick a gift that will be just right.

Another cool part is the List of Wishes Maker. This lets you peek at your folks' and kin's public wish lists, making it simple to know if the gift you have fits them - like that book you've saved. By keeping up with friends on GiftList, you see what they like and their special dates. If a pal's list has lots of new home stuff, you know that old odd vase might not be a hit.

To top your regifting game, keep a simple way of noting your gifts to re-give. Write down who gave you the gift, the time, and who might like it next. This prevents the awkward error of giving a gift back to the one who first gave it, making sure every gift ends up where it's liked.

When you're neat, regifting turns into a careful and smart act. Knowing what you have, who might want it, and their big day lets you regift with sureness and thought.

9. Know When Not to Give Away A Gift Again

Giving a gift you got to someone else can make sense if you don't want it, but it's not always the best idea. Some gifts are too close to your heart or mean too much to give to another person. Make sure the gift fits well with what the new person would think and the event.

Gifts made just for you or that have your name on them should not be given again. These things are often made thinking of you. Lizzie Post, who helped write Emily Post's Etiquette, says this a lot:

"Anything someone made for you should not be given away... because it was something special a person created for you, the situation is fraught with the possibility that you will hurt the giver, especially if they somehow learn you gave it to someone else."

Gifts that hold deep feelings, like family gems or rings with special words on them, mean a lot so they are not good to give again. Even basic things, like books, can be tricky. Books can show what you like, and not everyone likes the same stuff.

Do not give away things that are old, used, or out of date. That means clothes you have worn, gadgets you have played with, or food that is almost bad. People might think you did not care much. Also, small free gifts or cheap stuff you got for free are bad to give again. It can seem like you just want to get rid of things, not that you care.

Jodi RR Smith, who started Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting, says to remember one easy thing:

"When regifting an item, it must be something that you would have purchased for the individual had you gone to the store. To merely pass along an item you cannot stand is inappropriate."

If you did not pick the gift just for them, do not give it to someone else. Better to give it away so someone else can love it.

10. Quick Guide: How to Regift Right

When you think about regifting, just ask one thing: Would you buy it with your own money for them? If not, you may want to pick something else.

Here’s an easy guide for regifting right:

• It must be new: The gift needs to be new, not used, and without signs that it's just for you, like names or special marks.
• Keep it simple: Go for gifts that most would like, such as good candles, nice frames, or top books. Stay away from things that are too much about what you like.
• Look at dates: If it can go bad, make sure it's still good and not out of date.

A tip from those who regift often: put a small note on it about where it came from and when you got it. This helps keep you from giving it back to the person who gave it to you by mistake.

The timing and the feeling behind the gift matter too. If the gift had a lot of thought put into it or means a lot, it's better to keep it than to regift it.

Advice from manners pro Lisa Gaché:

"Why toss something that may wind up in a landfill when that same item may be cherished by someone who will truly appreciate it?"
– Lisa Gaché, Etiquette Expert and Certified Instructor

Regifting: What to Do and Not Do List

This list will help you master the art of regifting with care. It shows key tips and usual errors and gives a simple checklist to make sure your regifting picks are kind and right.

This table is your main tool to skip uneasy times and make sure your regifting seems caring and planned.

To plan gifts even better, try GiftList. It lets you keep an eye on big days and sort out your gifts, helping you dodge any regifting mix-ups from the start.

It's Easy When You Think About It

Regifting can be easy when you do it right. The main thing is to use new, never-used things that really fit who you're giving them to, and give them with as much care as you would if it were new. A bit of extra work can make it feel very special.

More than half of people in the US say they have regifted, which shows many people think it's okay - if done well. To keep it smooth, don't regift to the same group of people. If you're not sure, it’s best to pick something new.

Being neat can help a lot. Tools like GiftList let you keep an eye on important days, handle wish lists, and be sure your regifting is smart. With things like the AI Gift Ideas Generator and Special Occasions Tracker, you can keep ahead and make all your gifts seem planned.

With some care, regifting isn’t just handy - it’s a caring way to make sure things not being used go to a home where they’re loved. A bit of thought and respect can turn regifting into a caring and lasting way to show joy for the people in your life.

FAQs

How do I make sure a gift I gave again fits the person I am giving it to?

To give a gift again in a way that feels right and fits the person, think about what they like, what they do in their free time, and what they might need. Ask yourself: Would I buy this for them if I were out shopping today? Don't give again anything that feels like a no-thought needed item or something you wouldn't want to get.

Before you give the gift, be sure to take off any old tags or boxes that could show where it came from. Wrap it well - how it looks is key - and think about adding a note you wrote by hand, to show you cared. These little things can make the act seem planned and full of heart.

How can I make a gift I give again seem more from the heart?

To add a bit of heart to a gift you give again, add small, kind bits to it. For example, write a note by hand. In it, tell why this gift is right for them. This makes the gift seem more caring. Wrap it in a fun way too, use paper or a bag that fits what they like. Add a little extra gift if you can, like a snack they love or a small thing that means a lot. These small things show you really thought about it, making the gift feel one-of-a-kind and full of heart.